Back to blogging after quite a while. It was one of the days where i was woken up early by the sweet tune of " Louis Armstrong's - What a wonderful world". first i thought why the heck i had kept the alarm on such a time. then i realised i had not kept the alarm. I was watching 2 different movies last night Kannada's Mata, where 7 people try to become Matadipathi" it was 3 time i was watching it as i love the story theme rather than dialogues.
Then from my movie collection i took out " One day in September", story of how the 14 Israeli sportsmen were killed by black September gang. It was a very emotional movie as there were many young sports persons who lost their lives for some "Revolution".
After hearing the ring tone for a long time , then i realised my mother had called cause she will never hang up the phone till the "No reply" message is heard. Took up the call and in a low voice said my grandmother had expired in early hours of the morning. I told her why could not she call up in the Early morning. she said , she did not wanted to disturb me. i felt sad. any ways first i thought i will visit the home where her remains was kept before it would be cremated. The house was at " K.T Street" the E-hub of Mysore, this is the place where i spent my childhood days in the house which was 150 years old . only to be later demolished in 2004 to construct the new house as the things had changed. the old house was a "Henchina mane" what we call in the local language. she had spent her last 65 years as she was married to my grandfather at the age of 15 were she came to Mysore. She had gone through all cycles of life. 4 Kids of which 3 are Boys who are not be be called as sons. she had seen all the tragedy sorrow and happiness. But today was her last day here :(.
It was a chance for me to visit the house ever six months at least for the functions where i could see her, but today would be the last time . i felt nothing for some time after i saw some disturbing scenes which made me to realise what would have gone when she wa alive. it was indeed very inhumanly thing. when my dad's mother died i had seen the scene, since i was not bothered much i didn't care. when my mom's father died in 2009 it was one more but it was not in great scale as my grand mother was alive.
It was live today which made me very sad.. indeed very sad. No words could describe the hasty behaviour. i had heard these things from my mother and some of my relatives earlier , today i got the chance to see it live.
Poor lady, now she is nomore to see this. at least give respect to people during their last journey. i have heard money is the oot cause for all evil. when people leave no money when they die, their children curse, when they leave something. evil war starts. family starts to fight, siblings turn to enemies. i have seen this live at my father's side. where two people are fighting for the plot where his mother stayed. one has a so called will which is written to Daughter in law and other is having her own khata in her name which says plot is her's . to be frank their family's net asset today is more than 1 crore as both hold 2 30*40 plots and earning income is 40K permonth and Indian govt is deprived of their taxes. But their greed is never ending. let it aside, i never interfere in any one of my parent's families as i see that i am not the concerned person for that .
But i have seen that my relatives thirst for gold , cash and land is so much that they are afraid to do anything to others. when you have a rightful way of getting things why do you go a wrong way to get things. seeing all these since a long time i never be close to my relatives. their only question when they meet me is whats your bloody salary? man i earn what is sufficient for me to survive and have saved enough to survive without job for next 3 years even if i am layed off today. when i say i earn 30K which is not true , they blink their eyes and say good amount na? but when we question to them y are u fighting for these small stuffs, they have no answers. ok i am going bit off track.
Coming to say what made me feel so sad today was the fight for my grandmother's jewellery what she had with her when she was alive. when it was supposed to be put on her body, the way her DIL's behaved was pathetic. they knew that it will be taken by any one of the three befre the body could be burnt and will be with them forever. my mother was asking for a hankie as my grandmom's hand were so thin and ornament's would fall if it's not tied. she could not get the 2 hankie's which she asked. finally she said i will tie my hankie for her hand. i was about to say take mine and tie it , but she had already 2 . shame on the people , they couldnt give one piece of cloth. then the Saree which was supposed to be put on her, they put two sarees and when she was layed on the pyre the movements of the three DIL's i saw was shocking.
Man i thought how cruel can be these humans. they were worried about the bangles and a chain which was on her bod, they were rushing to take that in a flash. they were in a race to grab that. i know it's gold , but why rushing in to take those. Your Father in law have given you so much that you still live on his earnings . you have the luxury of getting a fixed income every month, you still live in his pension earnings and the house which he has built in his savings and for the other he helped him to get a job by running around people which he was unable to get , he had discarded him and during his last breath he didnt come to see him, only time he came was to light his pyre which was a true insult. My grand father used to care for all and till date he has kept FD in all his son's name . that is with his hard earnings. these guys dont care for that. They were pushing each other to grab those till my mother stepped in and she with her aunt told not to touch the gold and the gold was handed over to my Grandfather's sister which she can hold till the next trouble starts. Many might feel my mother wanted to take this, no way .... when i asked her about this while returning she said i wanted to keep those during the ceremonies which we do for the departed people an said that she would have handed over to them if they were not behaving like that.
Then came the Saree which was laid on the body. one DIL wanted it to be removed as she had given it. it made me so furious that i wanted to slap her. Man, nothing is permanent on life. why are you wanting to remove the saree from the departed body??? let it go with her, she might feel happy at least in her death. she was arguing with the people there when one of them said, leave it we are gonna close the body with the wood and dont remove it .fearing more shouting she kept quiet.
In my childhood day's i had seen my grandfather keeping his valuables in a big wooden trunk. i meant valuables where he treasured the must. knowing his son's disability to earn, he had parcelled of the cash in such a way it would be used only when needed.
One day i jokingly asked, can i have the white silk dhothi which he used to wear for me, my mother said, no idea where its gone. i still have not seen the trunk where it's gone. the valuables ..... and many stuffs.... i know that he had an habit of writing all the details in the dairy which is now missing. this in fact had the financial dealings also.....i have no idea where his gold ornaments have gone. my mother tells jokingly , see the bracelet which was kept for your marriage is stolen by those 3 idiots... i say dont worry. i dont wear gold and am not obsessed about it...the only thing she feels more is her ring which he was wearing till his death has gone missing. this was given to him so that he can keep it with him till his death as my mother was not wearing the same.
i dont care a damn about what he was having in cash when he passed away as i am least bothered abut it. but i am so sad that the kids act so crazy when the parents die. the only thing on their mind is just what his parent has left for him to enjoy....
After i saw the disturbing events today i feel for sure that there will be a big fight fr the gold. The cahs which my grandfather has left and the site which my grandmother had in her name. In fact two years back i was joking to her, do give it to me i will pay you 8L and i will have a plot in my mane, which she declined. i said fine not an issue.
one thing folks,let the people die in peace, dont fight for the gold ,cash what they have left, give it from you pocket, they have earned it and why the heck you steal them. u be friends till they are alive and when they die u become enemies. you are educated and have gone to school , you teach stuffs to your kids not to steal and you bloody do the same. if ti's gone it will come to you one day. only thing is you need to wait. there are families who have donated their parents earnings to people in needy. some fearing clashes donate all the stuffs to charity so that they dont want to see the children fight. They expect their children to take care of them during their last day's. but in my grandmother's case she couldn't get a quality treatment and we were not allowed to interfere in her health matters. but i felt very sad that both my mom's parents were not having their last days as they had expected. all the tensions made them to lose their heat and finally both had not a so called good ending to their lives. we have restricted my mom to go into any financial matters as we are well off .
One final say, the person who cared me from a day old baby to the age i got to know what the heck this world was, the person who has taken care of me in my childhood till i was 14 years .. i say a great thanks to you. i couldn't speak to you last time as you were unable to speak as you were bedridden. May your soul rest in peace .........
Please dont fight for the gold, assets and cash your parents or your in laws have left. It will be for you only be patient or donate it to some charity. dont be a bad name for the society..........
